Award Winning, Best Selling Author Kimberla Lawson Roby starts the new year with a new book “The Perfect Marriage”
*New York Times and USA Today Bestselling author Kimberla Lawson Robyhopes to bring about great awareness in “The Perfect Marriage,” which hits bookstores, other retailers and digital outlets January 8, 2013. In Part Two of our EURweb Exclusive, Kimberla discusses the element of deception that looms in her newest novel. In “The Perfect Marriage” The Shaws have been happily married for 15 years. They have a wonderful daughter, successful careers and a beautiful house, however Derrek and Denise have been deceiving themselves, their addiction is out of hand, and it’s taking a toll on their daughter, Mackenzie.
EURweb: How have you exposed the idea of “deception” to mean more than just infidelity with another man or woman in a relationship?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: Deception within the Shaw marriage occurs because of how well the two of them are able to hide their drug use from one another. Then, once their addiction rises to another level, they begin lying about one thing after another. They do whatever they have to do and say whatever they need to say in order to continue getting high. In a marriage, whenever damaging secrets are being kept and lots of lies are being told, this always means deception, even if those lies and secrets have nothing to do with infidelity.
EURweb: How are some couples able to deceive one another for long periods of time?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: I believe it is primarily because of lack of communication, something many married couples struggle with. It really pays to be in tune with your spouse, and it is also important to share everything, the good and the bad. Secondly, I think deception can last for a long time with couples because many spouses choose to live in denial, even though one of them might have at least some idea that something not so wonderful is going on with their husband or wife.
EURweb: In “The Perfect Marriage,” Mackenzie (Derrek & Denise Shaw’s daughter) takes matters in her own hands when her parents’ marriage spirals out of control. How is it that children also become masters of deception, and how crucial is it that these deceptions are acknowledged and resolved in order to save a marriage?
Kimberla Lawson Roby: Children tend to learn by example, so whenever a child has parents who lie and deceive each other, it is very easy for that child to become a master of deception also. Additionally, it is critical for deceptive behavior to be acknowledged and resolved, particularly between a husband and wife, because if not, this can single-handedly destroy a marriage.
The Perfect Marriage by Kimberla Lawson January 2013
Will the Shaw family survive? Will they live happily ever after and reclaim “The Perfect Marriage?” Find out and order your book now at www.kimberlalawsonroby.com.
The comments were made by columnist Rob Parker, who was appearing on the morning show “First Take.” [Scroll down to watch.]
Griffin said in an interview published this week by USA Today that he didn’t want to be defined by the color of his skin. In discussing the issue of Griffin and race on ESPN2, Parker began by asking of Griffin: “Is he a brother or a cornball brother?”
When asked by others discussing the issue to explain, he went on to say: “Okay he’s black, he kind of does the thing, but he’s not really down with the cause, he’s not one of us. He’s kind of black, but he’s not really, like, the guy you really want to hang out with…”
Parker later said: “We all know he has a white fiancée, then there was all this talk about he’s a Republican, which, there’s no information at all…”
Parker’s comments caused an immediately backlash around DC, even prompting councilmember and former mayor Marion Barry to speak out.
“I thought that we in the black community had gotten past that who’s black enough, who’s not black,” Barry told ABC7. “I thought that era was over with.”
“He’s an outstanding athlete,” Barry added later. “And it’s appalling that you have other black people talking like that.”
On Twitter Wednesday, Parker fired back at critics of his comments, and also received some support.
Meanwhile David Scott with ESPN public relations sent ABC7 a tweet that said: “The comments were inappropriate and we are evaluating our next steps.”
Parker’s comments come about a day after Griffin told USA Today’s Jim Corbett that he doesn’t want to be defined by the color of his skin.
“I am an African-American in America. That will never change. But I don’t have to be defined by that,” Griffin told USA Today. “You want to be defined by your work ethic, the person that you are, your character, your personality.”
“I’m uncomfortable with where we just went,” Stephen A. Smith, the often outspoken co-host of “First Take,” said after a long hesitation following Parker’s comments. “It’s irrelevant; he can live his life any way he chooses. I don’t judge someone’s blackness based on those types of things.”
*Are you suffering from malnutrition? Are you receiving any public assistance or do not have access to emergency funds if you need them? Do you experience debilitating depression, so much so, that it has rendered you incapable of holding down a job or looking for one? What about XBox? Do you own one of those or have a computer to read this story on? What about DVD’s and a DVD player, do you have those too?
I ask these, seemingly, unreasonable questions because it appears that “poverty” has taken on a new face since the 60′s and 70′s. Back then, when someone was poor or living below the poverty line, THEY WERE REALLY FRIGGIN’ POOR! Nowadays, if you don’t own an XBox, don’t have a car or have less than 5 DVD’s in the house … you’re poor!
*(via USA Today) – The most successful blacks and Hispanics are more likely to have poor neighbors than are whites, according to a new analysis of Census data.
The average affluent black and Hispanic household — defined in the study as earning more than $75,000 a year — lives in a poorer neighborhood than the average lower-income non-Hispanic white household that makes less than $40,000 a year.
“Separate translates to unequal even for the most successful black and Hispanic minorities,” says sociologist John Logan, director of US2010 Project at Brown University, which studies trends in American society. (more…)
*Americans anxious about unemployment and the economy increasingly blame President Obama for hard times, a USA TODAY/Gallup Poll finds, amid signs of turbulence in November’s midterm elections.
Last week’s jubilant signing of the health care overhaul, Obama’s signature domestic initiative, seems to have given the president little boost. Instead, his standing on four personal qualities has sagged, and 50% of those surveyed say he doesn’t deserve re-election.
“People are still hurting; a lot of people are still struggling, and I think a lot of what we’re seeing in the polls reflects people’s views on the economy,” says Rep. Chris Van Hollen, head of the Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee.
“At the same time, things have been improving. Clearly the economy is growing again,” Van Hollen said. “I believe that if we begin to see positive job growth, people’s confidence will return and that will change the dynamic.”
Get MORE of this story by Susan Page at USA Today.